Jumping In From California

Goin4More · **Posted:** Thu Mar 12, 2009 8:46 am

houtx770 wrote:

G4M -
Yours sounds like a good, supportive situation w/ your SO. I can relate to the circle of friends who drink, but actually yours sounds so full and fun...would certainly hate to lose that entirely...altho being divorced, that has changed alot for me. I can identify - I exited a marriage of 30+ years nearly three years ago. All my friends were couples. . .made for some lonely nights drinking at home. TG I met a true soulmate a year ago - I hadn't believed such a thing really existed. Take heart: it does!!!I too am not interested in divorcing myself from friends who drink - I want to make my own changes and become my own version of normal. But the mention of your friend who lost her job and now wants to comiserate on your turf & your time. Tricky ground. I have a friend who is the same way...thinks I am into drinking right along with her patterns and it has never been so...hard ground to maneuver. Good luck! I allowed her to invite herself over on her first day off work, but am definitely going to put a very short leash on that situation! My hope is that her husband will check out Naltrexone, and help her out. I think she'd be willing.[color=#800000][/color]

BTW, I love my chardonnay & a big cab with a beef dish. If beef is on the menu, I love the perfect martini first...champagne is delicious for any occasion but pairs well w/ spicey. Also lifts my spirits when feeling blue...I can always find a reason to pop the cork. But I don't stop at 1,2 or 4 or 6 or more sometimes...I am a bad girl on too many occasions - usually by myself....and sick of it. I don't hate myself or anything, just sick of it and can't seem to really break the habit by sheer willpower. I can do and have done so many things by sheer willpower...smoking, losing weight, getting divorced...but stopping drinking, a whole 'nuther story. It is central to so much of a normal life - especially dating & "meeting for drinks". I can do all that, but it's when I am at home that I cave...Your story is mine, except I stick pretty much to wine exclusively. Well. . .maybe the occasional Crown Royal. . .

Would love to be able to come to a screeching halt or nearly. Enjoy the martini, a glass of cabernet w/ dinner, a fine cognac after...then great sex and a sound sleep!!! Ahhhhhhhhh - that sounds like the perfect evening to me!! :-)

Loved that line in "Sideways": "I need to be spanked" LOLOL - Life is good and hopefully getting better!

SpringRider, to quote one of the American Idol judges this week: "You're naughty, and I like it!

marbella · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 12:50 pm **Posts:** 255

WaitingToExhale wrote:

This thread is cracking me up!

houtx: I'm right there with you on that martini! And isn't it SO hard to be dating and not drink? I'm doing the online dating thing and I can't imagine going out and not having that Chard! Meeting "for a drink" today at 4:30 with another possible victim - wish me luck and some control.

G4M: Hope you're right about that soul mate thing - thought I had found mine. Then got dumped 9 months ago. Hate when that happens! Oh well, another excuse to drink! HA!

I'm in the same boat with not wanting to leave friends behind that still drink and / or drink heavy. Sadly, I've gotten close to many other single women, and of coarse gravitated to the heavy drinking ones - just like me.

I passed on a few links to MWO and this forum to one gal that I've spoken real honestly with about my issues. She's as bad as I am and knows it, but there is a resistance to change. I finally asked her the other day if she looked at the links, she said yes, she spent all her time reading the joke section on MWO! Can lead a horse to water? ...

Good news is my book finally arrived yesterday! Ticking off the days until my meds arrive. Again, nervous and excited all rolled into one.

I had such a bad experience with Topa and doing that without a DR, that it's spooky to be back in the same place. And my friggin hair is falling out now! What's up with that? I have been off the Topa since December 15th and now all of a sudden? Ack.

SR: Love how you just say it like it is! LOL

WTE

Good luck with the date Waiting- hope the victim is worthy of you- to be honest I don't think I would have dared go into the dating scene again pre-nal, I know I just would have got completely blotto before they even turned up

I read about the hair loss thing with Topa after I had taken it- my hair is very fine as it is, and I would not have taken if I had known about the hair loss.

(I got the blurred vision instead so stopped anyway- that is some nasty stuff)

I do recall reading somewhere on MWO there was something that seemed to reverse the hair loss- that was ages ago, but I will try to find the thread. Don't worry about the Nal, after the initial short lived nausea, there do not seem to be any side effects at all.

oceanaocean · **Joined:** Sun Feb 15, 2009 9:37 pm **Posts:** 43

Ha! Girls! Me too! Very fine, silky blond hair

Maybe that goes along with the chardonnay. I am enjoying the thread too.

shasha · **Posted:** Fri Mar 13, 2009 12:12 pm

Hi girls, love this thread. My hair is dark so maybe I should stick to merlot?? - whose theory is this anyway?

I too have a great friend who likes her wine a little too much. We have lovely evenings, eat, drink, talk, laugh and gossip till the early hours. We always promise each other to be good and always spend the next morning regretting the couple too many. When I tried to go AF recently, I was really worried what it would do to our friendship - I actually asked her directly how she thought it would be. She was really sweet, very supportive and even suggested a "temperance supper" when I felt ready. Needless to say, I failed and we had a brilliant birthday dinner out! (shame on us all). She confided that her drinking was getting out of hand too and she was worried. I haven't told her about SM yet. I feel a little shame-faced about it. It really does sound too easy, doesn't it?

So, there are def. heavy-drinking people who you gravitate towards in order to feel normal, and there are the others, who are really just too good to lose.

Have a lovely weekend everyone. I am raising a glass (first one) to you all. Shasha

samsara · **Joined:** Sat Feb 14, 2009 11:22 pm **Posts:** 19

I believe that the people whom you have in your life are there by your karma. Not wishing to impose this on anyone else. But, I've noticed over the years that no matter whether I am repelled by someone or they seem to insert themselves into my life - there is much I can learn from them and there is a reason why they are there. (Sometimes, though, I don't figure it out until years later).

You take from the "good"; you take from the "bad". You take what is.

christyacc · **Posted:** Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:13 pm

Hello there..

How do you determine 'units'? If I drink beer regularly, then how many units per beers?

Thanks!!!

C

houtx770 · **Joined:** Fri Feb 06, 2009 7:32 pm **Posts:** 109

Hey all -
Well I wrote a reponse and lost it so will have to tune in again tomorrow. My computer/phone line was down all weekend so taking me awhile to catch up...

My ex-husband told me he quit smoking over a 3-month period using "Chantrax"? Said it worked on the "pleasure receptors" in the brain blahblahblah. I nearly fell down - is there something going on out there in the medical community with this whole thing? Of course I didn't mention what I was doing (he is a FREAK about alcohol addiction - don't get me started - I've been thinking about all this/him/us/me all day long) But the fact this drug worked in the EXACT same way NTX is supposed to only with a nicotine addict????? HEEELLLLOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel like it is a HUGE positive with us as well! Nicotine addiction is supposed to be the worst to break - and he was BAD!!! And he did it with an opioid uptake/receptor inhibitor (whatever!! :-) drug??!! Ok...I think there is more to this and the medical community is only slowly leaking the news...get ready, kids.

Cheers!

marbella · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 12:50 pm **Posts:** 255

houtx770 wrote:

Hey all -
Well I wrote a reponse and lost it so will have to tune in again tomorrow. My computer/phone line was down all weekend so taking me awhile to catch up...

My ex-husband told me he quit smoking over a 3-month period using "Chantrax"? Said it worked on the "pleasure receptors" in the brain blahblahblah. I nearly fell down - is there something going on out there in the medical community with this whole thing? Of course I didn't mention what I was doing (he is a FREAK about alcohol addiction - don't get me started - I've been thinking about all this/him/us/me all day long) But the fact this drug worked in the EXACT same way NTX is supposed to only with a nicotine addict????? HEEELLLLOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel like it is a HUGE positive with us as well! Nicotine addiction is supposed to be the worst to break - and he was BAD!!! And he did it with an opioid uptake/receptor inhibitor (whatever!! :-)

drug??!! Ok...I think there is more to this and the medical community is only slowly leaking the news...get ready, kids.

Cheers!

A friend of mine also quit smoking with Chantix (spelling?) think the name is different in UK/US, but when I researched it I found it was having some quite nasty side effects for some- very bad depression etc, where as I have had no such side effects with the Nal- after a bit of irritability the first few days.

I have also read that Chantix can help drinkers, but it seems there is nothing to really back this up.

marbella · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 12:50 pm **Posts:** 255

Fantastic news Waiting!

I was wondering if they had arrived today 8-)

I am so interested in seeing how it goes for you!!

marbella · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 12:50 pm **Posts:** 255

LOL, I think I would wait and make sure you take it an hour before you start drinking for the first few days...just my opinion!

(PS. I sent your Avatar to your email address)

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