Sounds good! Nal on! Newlife

Minnemom,

You are right on track. So you are not a fast responder, but very few are. You had an awesome honeymoon period, and some people didn't even have that. I was drinking a bottle of wine a night still at the end of 3 week, and I was just as discouraged. And by week 12 I was up to 1 1/2 to 1 3/4 bottles, so your intake may go up again. Please do not get discouraged, for we are all different and we will respond differently. But this is all part of the process, the only thing you really need to make sure of is taking that pill and waiting the entire 60 minutes before drinking, the rest will follow in time.



I think you may want to talk to your husband about this. If you think that him watching you is causing you to sneak, then tell him how much pressure it puts on you. You do not have to tell him that you are sneaking, but you can tell him how it makes you feel. He has to trust the pill will be doing its job, for that is what you are doing! It might be hard for him to let go, but in letting go will help you in your progress.

I am glad you are here with us and sharing your progress.

Keep the faith, and keep posting,

Jaba

MinnieMom

You are definitely very early days, each TSM journey is also quite different.

Regards your sneaking drinks thing, yes you can tell your husband about this but I'd invite you to think about it yourself. Ok it feels rebellious, but what about you, what about you being responsible to you?You are the most important person in this.

MM I'll bet your husband knows you're sneaking anyway.

I know I never fooled my wife, although I thought I did.

Do you want to be in control of your life, or let alcohol?


Sneaking, and success with TSM don't go together

The beauty of all this, is that you regain your dignity. No more of the bottle bossing you around!

I gather that you're absolutely right, Guapo.... I'm just trying to figure my way through all of this "take the pill, wait one hour drink as you normally do" business. I'm only 4 weeks in and, sadly, sneaking drinks when DH is around has been what I "normally" do. I don't feel I'm yet to a place where the Nal is actually helping me yet and without that nudge of feeling something different with it, I'm having a hard time curbing my al behavior. I'm trying, I really am.... I've been religious with my Nal and waiting the one hour. I'm trying to be more mindful, I just am not there yet where I am always successful with my mindfulness...

Rather rough week, emotionally, for me.... Aside from my husband being gone all week (and then coming home and picking a fight with me), it was the 8th anniversary of my mother's death. It's a really difficult time for me every year... I thought I was going to spend it alone, but was able to meet up with a few of my in-town siblings, so it all worked out. I drank more than I should have, but not any more than anyone else.

If you look at my numbers, I didn't have the massive spike that I was anticipating! That in and of itself is a victory for me. I feel that, overall, though I drank too much last week. I still haven't had a dreaded nal-over, but I was definitely feeling a little off a couple of mornings. I'm really working on mindful drinking, but it's a struggle.

All in all, I still don't feel much change with the Nal. I still enjoy the taste of al, I still look forward to drinking it and I still get the "warm fuzzies" at that first sip. I'm at the one month mark now, so I'm hoping those chemical changes are on their way....

Minnemom,

I am sorry about your loss, for that is never an easy anniversary. I am glad you did not spend it alone.

Those changes will come, but it does take time. I think you are doing great, just keep on doing what you are doing and the rest will follow...I promise!

Jaba

MM,

It sounds like you must have done some mindful drinking if you kept your numbers down during this stressful week. I really did not start feeling the major changes until well into the second month. I was not even at the point of thinking of mindful drinking in the first month. That has just started to happen to me now at around the 4 month spot. So keep the faith. OK ... you can worry if you want.... but keep the faith and follow the golden rule.

My Mom passed 3 years ago Oct. 22. Losing a mother is so hard. I am now an orphan. My husband was rotten when my Mom died and now I am an orphan. Every year I remember lying with her until she died. Husbands can be such assholes. Hang in there. I am nearing my third month and I still love that first drink. As I drink on it doesn't just taste very good. I hope to God this works.

MInneMom,

You are doing great! It is difficult not look for comfort in a bottle when that is what you have always done. You didn't have a massive spike and that is indeed a victory.

Dee