thank you so much. i live in the city and alcohol is everywhere. when i turn on the tv or watch a movie. everyone is drinking. i dont understand how some people can just drink a couple glasses and move on, while i keep chugging the bottle.
my life in general isnt so bad. i have done well for myself, considering that i am a single woman in san francisco. i have an apt without roommates, which says a lot, believe it or not. and i have a dog and 2 cats. what i dont have are friends. and that is really hard. and i bore very easy. although i just took a 2nd job for the weekends but a wfh situation and i am starting a charity for animals, so i am hoping those 2 new ventures help to distract me.
i look back at when i was younger, before i began to drink and i was so much more inspired and i did things that i dont do any more. and i feel as though i have failed myself.

Well, you have! But now you're going to do something about it, and that's not failure. That's success. I do so much more now than I did when I was drinking, I earn a ton more than I did when I was drinking, and I never have all those awful feeling of regret and loss that I always had when I was drinking.

Being alone sucks. Being alone and an alcoholic really sucks. Fix the drinking first. Then you can meet people without having to figure out how to hide your drinking. It's easier.

In the mean time, meet all of us. We're no great shakes, but we're a start.

Every journey begins with a single step.

Hiya, just wanted to jump in really quick without all the preliminary pleasantries to say that if you live in San Francisco it sounds like it's going to be pretty easy to get a life, and one that doesn't revolve around the bottle. I know where I live in Texas there's a "meetup" for folks who are looking for stuff to do that is specifically a sober crowd. But there's probably a difference between "sober" and "doesn't drink", right? Because I've had maybe a dozen beers over the last year during holidays, but I consider myself to be a non-drinker. I bet most AA people would freak out over people who are struggling with a drinking problem socializing with someone like me though, don't you think?

Just a thought, because I distinctly remember running across meetups for introverted women and for people who are looking for non-alcohol activities. Hope it helps!

well FT. Nal has helped me a lot, and the forum has been very helpful and low on drama. we're here for you.

Forwardthinking,

That was me, and I hated watching TV, or going out to eat when I was trying to be sober, for it used to make me mad and very agitated. And I would chug that bottle and look for another one...

You are making all the right step to move forward in this process. You are not alone, for you do have invisible friends now . We are a family here with a lot of different personalities, but we have the same goal, which is getting results with TSM and helping others to get results with TSM.



Clarion has a point, for once the nal. does its job, you will need to fill that void that the lack of alcohol will leave. Keeping yourself busy through the process is helpful, as long as you have time for yourself, for I think being too busy keeps us from self-awareness. The book simplifies how easy this process is, and it is for a few, but most of us have to work at the process.

I hope that you start a progress page, for it is helpful to you and others.

Jaba