MM - I know you said you were a worrier - so I will not tell you not to worry. But don't worry yet It does take time - like a fine wine getting to its peak. You have just started and I know it did take time for me - almost like it creeped up on me. And of course others may have responded faster - but you can not go through life comparing yourself to others. You will respond on your time schedule. Keep the faith - and the golden rule!

Enjoy your lunch and your weekend

look back to your post on 5th Oct - sounded to me like it was working then!

give it time, you're only two week in. sadly we can't all be fast responders, but that doesn't mean it's not going to work for us over the longer haul. TSM is a marathon, not a sprint!

-badger

Minnemom,

It will come. You did feel a difference with taking that pill in the beginning, and there is a difference now. You are making progress, for you are here and following that golden rule. You haven't given up yet (I was about to after my first nal. over). You are doing everything possible to make sure this works and that is a step toward progress.

It will take a minimum of three months, and most people it can take 6-8 months. Sometimes we forget how we were before the nal. (at least I do), and I think that is the reason that we track our intake and desire. It is hard for me remember how I wish I could have a straw long enough to hit the bottom of that wine bottle so I didn't need a glass, and now I can take it or leave it. Your time will come, but you must give it time!

You are doing really good and you have only been doing this a couple of weeks. It sounds like the honeymoon might be over, so just keep doing what you have been doing and the rest will follow. Remember you are not alone in this, for we will be here every step of the way.

Jaba

Week 3: Not too much to report... I'm still not feeling the effects of the Nal like so many of you all did immediately. Rather discouraging...

My drinking has remained consistent and on the LOW end of my pre-Nal drinking, so that's good. Any week that I don't go off the rails on a binge is a good week. And about binges... I have a question... I'm not sure if what I did/do is actually what you all refer to as bingeing. For me, on very rare occasions (usually several months go by in between these occasions) I find myself WAY overindulging. It's almost ALWAYS when we are either out with others or on vacation, where I feel like I have an "excuse" to get drunk. It's only for the one night, but sometimes when I do that, the results are horrific (ie. terrible row with my husband, DUI, doing things that could potentially really harm me...). That is a binge, right? Even though it's just one night? So many of the other bingers I've read about here say their binges can last for days and days. I just want to make sure I'm classifying myself right...

Also, an observation I've made is that I think one of the reasons I drink more than I would like on a daily basis is that I'm trying to feel "in control" of myself. By that I mean that I am making my own decisions for me. When I KNOW my husband is watching me like a hawk, it kind of pisses me off and makes me want to sneak another glass of wine (or two) just to say, "Ha! You're not the boss of me!" I know that it sounds terribly juvenile, but it's true. That's probably how I got into this mess in the first place...

This is from http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/moderate-binge-drinking

MinneMom:

I can SO relate to what you are saying about not wanting to be watched or wanting to feel like your husband is not your "boss". I have the same kind of personality. It is why AA would NEVER work for me. The minute someone tells me I cannot do something, I am obsessed with doing it just to prove that I can. I guess it is juvenile, maybe, but we have to work with the personalities we've got. I prefer to think of us as "rebels". Sounds more romantic.

I don't know if what you describe is a "binge" or not.....according to Doormat's post above, it is, but who cares what you call it? It is hurtful to you and you want to be more in control. That is how I think of my goals for TSM. I want to be in control. I do NOT want AL to control me and I do not want to do and say things I regret.....or wonder what the heck I did or said that I might regret.

Hang in there, is is still so very early on for you. I know you said you were a worrier, but seriously for right now just take a deep breath and take that pill one hour before drinking. That is all you have to worry about right now. This can take a while. But it will be worth it.

XOXO From Newlife

Yes!!!! Rebel it is! (Not brat )

Yes!!!! Rebel it is! (Not brat )

I like the sound of it! Rebels united against AL! Lets keep rebelling when AL tells us we must drink now!

And Sober Brats.