Tonight is my girl's night with my daughter. We went out to dinner and I had one drink. I didn't want another. It felt good. Then, she gave me some upsetting news and all I wanted was a drink. I have had two since we got home. Does bad news trigger everyone else? Will I get past this? I was feeling pretty positive until tonight.

Yeah. That's a big big trigger, esp. kid drama. Of course you'll get over it. You're not in this for just the easy days, right? Forget AF this week if you're not feelin it but get on track soon as possible. We're no good to our kids drunk... and I doubt your daughter wants you drunk on her account.

Hugs, Steve.

PS..All little invisible friends welcome to PM me any time.

Deena - sorry about the bad news and yes bad news always makes me want to reach for the AL. I agree with Steve - maybe forget the AF this week unless you really feel you can do it okay - there is always next week. And also like Steve - feel free to PM me any time as well....

Hugs to you, Maggie x

Deena, yes bad news def makes me want AL. Sorry but don't beat yourself up. Im here for you too, publicly or privately. Tomorrow is another day. xoxo Newlife

That's one of the many insanity's of alcoholism. We will drink to any occasion. We will drink to celebrate, we will drink to remorse, we will drink to forget, it don't matter we plain and simply sill just drink. Don't be hard on yourself. Having three in one night is probably a hell of a lot better then it was before right?

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Thanks, everyone. I was feeling so great last night about not wanting another drink. It wasn't that I was choosing not to have a second drink with dinner, it was that I actually didn't even want it. That is a new feeling for me. So, when my daughter shared her sad news with me when we got home, it was so upsetting that the first thing I did, after giving her a big hug, was open a bottle of red. I didn't think about it, I didn't try to talk myself out of it, I just went to the basement and brought up a bottle of wine. I guess that has been my MO for so long that I shouldn't have been surprised. If it took me all these years to get here, I shouldn't expect for everything to be totally different in 13 weeks.

I had four drinks before I was done last night and woke up this morning with a hangover. I got really depressed and sad and then I remembered something. I used to wake up hungover four to five days a week. This was my first hangover in a long time, a couple of months probably. So rather than beat myself up about it, I am choosing to look at it as a reminder of what once was. I can't believe I started so many of my days feeling so crappy. I don't know how I did it.

Jaba, I can identify with the impatience of waiting to have a drink. There were many times I couldn't wait for my husband to go to bed so I could have "one more".

Thanks again for all the support. I have never been to AA but I can see the benefit of being with people who understand what you are going through. Even if I was sharing with family and friends, they would never fully understand how I feel the way that you do.

Deena - what a great way of looking at it - that it is so long since you have had a hangover! At least it wasn't a Nal-Over ! Those things are wicked !! And yes, we need to take this thing slowly - Rome wasn't built in a day! Hang in there -

hugs, Maggie xx

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Deena,

Great attitude! One of the beauties of this method is that it is okay to have a bad day or night. Just remember to take the pill an hour before hand. Sorry about the sad news from your daughter.

But very happy to see that you have bounced back with a good attitude.