i keep posting and not getting very many responses. i need some responses right now, so please respond!!! thanks guys.

A belated welcome from me, Miss Kris!! I've really enjoyed your posts. You started at a bit of a slow tome so don't feel ignored. Just keep jumping in there and posting. We enjoy hearing from you.

Take care -- Lena

Hi Miss Kris, please don't be too upset by a lack of responses. In my case it is difficult to keep up with everyone here. There is so many different threads. Believe me there are really supportive people here. I am sure they are all just trying to keep up as well. Wish you all the best!

As too, I do! MissKris, I have been off for the weekend and I support you in your endeavors.

I understand how you feel, I write my "updates" and many people read them, but do not write anything, so I just count the hits and that makes me know someone is interested and hopefully I am contributing.

Wish I had something clever to say, but to suffice, I am glad you are a part of this continuing development.

Hi Miss Kris,

A warm welcome from me, too!

Sorry for not replying to your previous posts but I've been having a lot of computer problems recently. And, on top of that, we've just had a Bank Holiday weekend here in the UK. So, I'm now in the process of doing some catching up.

All the very best,

V.

Hi krissy! Please don't take lack of response personally. There is a core group of us who try to post regularly and respond to newer members - about six or so of us. As the board has grown by leaps and bounds, it gets difficult to keep up!

One really great way to get responses to your posts is to respond to others. . .get in the loop, so to speak. When you respond to someone else, they begin to feel like they're starting to get to know you, and will follow your threads a bit more. I know I get a lot more responses to my posts outside of my own 'progress report' thread, when I post to other threads. Give it a try!

Hello from another Kris!

As everyone has said, we all welcome and support anyone here who is suffering from alcoholism and open to TSM. It's just getting harder to keep up as the board grows. Personally, I'm supposed to be looking for a job, which is really a joke now in Michigan (highest unemployment rate in the USA) - so I can't justify spending all my time here anymore. However, it is still a HUGE priority, and I try to at least read most of the posts. Replying takes more time, and I don't often bother unless I feel I have something to contribute that hasn't already been said.

But I understand exactly how you feel. When I first came here, it was like my 'air' - I couldn't live without it for long. Just remember that everyone has different schedules, time constraints, etc. The really cool thing is that as drinking becomes less important in your life, you start to actually LIVE instead of just survive. Truly LIVING life takes away from the time you used to spend being drunk or obsessing over alcohol - but that's a GOOD thing!

Today, I'm actually having a rough time - drank much more than I hoped to the last few days, and am sick of all the 'doom and gloom' about the economy and my financial issues. But where have I come to lift my spirits? HERE! This board is like a best friend who will never desert you. It's there through the good times and the bad. I will do my best to remain as active here as possible, even after I'm cured. It will become more difficult as my life improves, but please don't ever think you're alone here - we ALL care, whether we have the time to say so or not.

Keep the faith going. You WILL succeed and we'll all be cheering you on in our thoughts and prayers when we're unable to be on-line. You're not alone!

Hi to both Krises!
Don't be discouraged! We are here for you and like others have said, some of us get bogged down, it's hard to keep up, etc. But Misskris, hope you have found a new home here and will find a few threads that are easier for you to keep up with. Tonight I decided to look at all the "newbies" or ones I had not responded to. I don't know that I am an old-timer, except I was here when this site was launched and OMG - it is huge now. I am amazed and LOVE it!!

Who did not feel isolated with this addiction before the book was published in October? I remember well how I stumbled upon it - and the HUGE amount of hope and amazing numbers of friendships I suddenly had and have made here. It has been a significant source of comfort and hope - along with laughter & irritation - this site has become a lifeline. It is too big to respond to everyone, but look at how many "views" there are on certain threads, and it's pretty cool.

Glad you are here, Misskris!

Hi Misskris,

I promised myself NOT to spend much time on here today - most of yesterday was spent catching up on posts after several days away from home. If I keep this up I'm going to miss a very important work deadline. But this place is a Godsend, and we 'old-timers' already have much to share with the newbies.

I so identify with what you say here, houtx. Yesterday I was coming out of the neighborhood store, and a friend of mine had her boyfriend's two grandkids at the ice cream shop next door. She babysits them often - though he treats her like crap. She is one of the kindest, most sacrificially giving people I know. Another gal who is down on her luck (who is actually always down on her luck) is now living with her. Her son, now in jail, also took advantage of her big heart for far too long.

Anyway, this gal has a big drinking problem. Goes to the neighborhood bar a couple times a week and drinks till she has to be carried out. I noticed yesterday that she has aged 10 years in the past year or so (and she's always been a very attractive woman). I took a moment to talk with her, and commented on how much I appreciate all that she does for other people. Her response? "Yeah, even though I get ****-faced all the time!"

She evidently feels that all her kindnesses don't count, b/c she's an alcoholic. What's THAT got to do with anything, really? But isn't that what we all do? We totally identify ourselves as 'worthless drunks,' and forget all the good and right things we are capable of.

I do so hope she, and other friends of ours, will see the changes in Jake and me and try TSM. But I'm resisting talking about it any more. . .have to let the changes speak for themselves.

Alcoholism sucks.