Thanks for your understanding and support Ruth. Daughter came over while husband was still at work. She relapsed more than a month ago and is not on TSM although she knows I am. Husband and son know she has relapsed a month ago. Husband knows I tried Sinclair and threatened me with divorce if I drank again. To date I have taken 4 naltrexone and have had 5 glasses of wine over an 8 day period. 2 then 2 then one with a/f days between so it seems to be working but who knows with the stilted way I am trying to do this.

I took my pill and she had 2 glasses of wine and I had one. We had dinner reservations for the three of us at 6:30. I said I didn't mind if daughter had a drink at dinner. He said no. I had water and so did he. She ordered diet coke. Waitress didn't bring it so Kelly went to bathroom and came back with her coke probably ordered with Jack Daniels at the bar. I think I am a better example to her if I take my pill and drink in front of her than abstaining in front of her. She has already relapsed and is unlikely to be abstinent for the rest of her life at age 25. If she would try TSM it would be safer for her. So I am still doing TSM behind his back with her knowledge and we are both abstinent to his face except she managed to cheat tonight. It just seems so stupid all this subterfuge. So I had one glass of wine at 5:30 to 6:00 p.m. and diet dr. Pepper since. I don't really feel like drinking either but who would with all the glaring disapproval I would be in for. Planning to keep on keeping on though. I view this experiment as insurance. Keep you posted. Thanks again!

I agree, your daughter should try TSM, maybe if she sees your success, she will get on board. Sorry you're having to take it behind your husband's back, but we do what we have to do don't we? I'm the opposite though, the glaring looks make me mad, which makes me want to drink! My husband seems to be softening to it, if only because he drinks, takes the pressure off of him, my daughter still doesn't get it. And I'm also opposite in that I only drink when he's in town, he travels every week, I now stay sober the whole time he's gone, and I'm finding that easier and easier to do as I'm continuing the program.......I'm even finding nights when he is home and drinks and I don't.......

hang in there Janet.........

Hi Cajun

just a thought why don't you show all the articles written about Nalmefene which is now being prescribed in many countries in Europe via the Sinclair method . Its the same but stays in the system longer and is not processed by the liver . The European union have approved it , the Uk is now using it and the rest of the countries are following shortly surely your husband and especially your daughter would have to get it then , just a thought , best of luck

J

Thanks Jokerman, I'll try that. They are both pretty stubborn, getting them to even look will be hard! I had another AF night last night while the hubby hit his bottle in the garage! I hope he knows he's not fooling me..wonder if he's fooling our daughter? I even ended up picking up his cup he left behind when he went to bed, which had melting ice and a straw in it, right next to his IPad, with our 6 month old kitten just waiting to cause mischief!! Yep, pointed it out this a.m. and he did not like it!! HA!


Anyway, it was no effort at all to not drink last night so progress is continuing! It is getting hard not having support here, after being proud of myself, I still wake up and get treated with animosity. I have a hard time ignoring it, so I find I end up avoiding them, not a happy way to live....I even skipped her cross country meet this a.m. due to the hostility......I'd rather stay away than deal with the hostility, especially if there is a chance that others would witness it....I always tell her she's making herself look bad when she's a bitch to me in public (and no, I don't use that word with her !)...I really don't want her showing that side of herself in front of others.......still trying to protect her! Staying the course though!