Wow, thanks for the support everyone. I'm very torn right now. Yes, it has been a long marriage of him controlling me and I do believe I have hit my rock bottom in that department, that is not helping the situation. His control has extended to our daughter, they have a much closer relationship and he has done a good job manipulating her. Our 22 year old son is across the country and 6 months sober. I'm really thinking I may put my foot down on this and get back on Nal, I need to take care of myself. Thanks all......

I put my foot down and am back on Nal! First night......wish me luck guys, I couldn't have done it without you! Sometimes we don't realize how that little show of support to someone else can make a difference, well I'm telling you all, it did! I'll keep you updated!

Good for you! You're doing the right thing for yourself AND being a good role model for your daugher.

I wish you much success!

Woo hoo! Yay! Keep the faith. And keep us posted. We're here for you.

Good for you deciding to go with TSM despite your husband "making" you quit. Don't let him derail you. He sounds like a controlling and manipulative p**ck, so I wish you the best of luck dealing with him. See if you can talk to your children when you're feeling calm and strong, maybe share some or all of the book with them, and/or some of the posts here.

One thing about this site and the authors/originators that adds great credibility is that no one is making money from it. It might engender some book sales, but no one is hawking monthly memberships or supplements or whatever. Nominal profits at best. While people on the site have their individual agendas, for the most part everyone seems to just want to get better and support each other.

You will need a lot of patience to keep with TSM. It is not a miracle cure. Just slow and steady, over months. Make sure you keep a log of your units. I also find it helpful to note when I first drink for the day. I have cut my consumption 1/3 to 1/2 (and it showed in my recent liver tests, levels way down!), although I do not consider myself anything close to "cured." Just following the program and keeping in touch on this site have helped me tremendously (even when I lurk for weeks at a time). One of my great benefits from TSM has been paying attention and taking responsibility, so I have stopped my really self-destructive behaviors. Way better than I was ever able to do with AA or on my own.

Keep in touch!

Feeling optimistic. Usually a bottle of wine per session (night) kind of drinker, last night at the half way point I was losing interest, that was when he pulled his stash of rum out of the garage (surprise surprise!), I ditched the wine and had 2 rum and diets. Remember the whole night, remember going to bed, and woke up feeling just fine thank you.

I did have to make some compromises with husband, but it's nothing I can't handle. I'm going to try talking to daughter this weekend again, last time I was met with the adamant "drugs to quit drugs" attitude, maybe it will go better this time. I also plan on showing her the book and site, hope she is more receptive to it. If my son were here, he would be supportive, but he's across the country dealing with his own problems.

I will keep a journal and try to learn the funny ways ya'll count your drinks! Even if I can't get that down, I'll keep track in my ADHD way!

Again thank you so much for the support!!!

Glad to hear you are back on TSM/Nal!!

Don't understand why it's so important to get everybody's permission though. I also hope you are not being encouraged to drink when you might want to slow down or stop - that would be a pretty big hammer in the wrong hands.....

Follow the rule: Nal + 1hr before you drink every time and stop or don't drink when YOU want to.

Rich

Thanks for the reminder Rich, yes I need to watch the outside influences, that is a very big issue here and is what got me here in the first place! Still feeling optimistic......

Awesome news Queen.

Keep us posted and I'm glad your still on our team.

Tonight will be a test, I'm not going to drink, don't want to, I think he will and will go as far as try to get me to go out......we'll see how it goes!!! Still feeling optimistic!!