After only about a month, he made me quit. My cravings were down to only about twice a week, as opposed to nightly, but still drank the same most of the time. I was feeling that the decrease from 7 to 2 nights a week was progress! I felt, if given time, it would have been successful. Now I sit here 6 months later and I'm getting the whole divorce threats, I'm ruining my relationship with my daughter, and am so depressed I can hardly stand it! I tried talking to both him and my daughter (17) about Nal, neither would listen, just threw back "so you need drugs to quit a drug?" BS.........I'll never get them to listen.......closed minds are such a barrier!

Oh, and I wasn't a drinker in my younger years, husband always has been and is still. I finally started with him, then found it was a good escape, (and I think he likes be better drunk )...it's messed up!!!!!!!

Don't quit! (Your husband doesn't have to know. Kind of funny, you sneak a pill that helps you not to drink).

You've got to get yourself sorted out, then deal with husband.

Maybe there's history that leads them to doubt you, but you can prove them wrong and your first obligation is to helping yourself. From there, you can deal with the other issues in your life.

Hang in there!

I thought about sneaking it, but it makes me feel bad the day after and he can tell. Anyway, that bird has flown the coop, I am forbidden to drink now. So as long as I'm living with him......I'm white knuckling it and trying to figure this all out......

Why are you forbidden but he isn't? Unless he's willing to stop drinking, he has no right to tell you to stop or make you feel guilty for trying TSM. He's not judge, jury, and executioner....

Oh dear, what a position to be in. I feel for you. I know it's unlikely to work, but would he be willing to read through some of the cured posts on here? Even better, would he read the book? Have you got anyone in your corner who understands about TSM and could try and make him see sense. It's a real shame given that it seemed to be working for you. I'm sure it's very hard for people to understand that in order for this to work alcohol has to be drunk. It can seem like a bit of a cop out or an excuse to drink for those who don't understand how extinction works. Could you take a break from each other for 6 months or so and really give it a good try with the view to getting back together at the end of it? If you really can't continue maybe a look at the Rational Recovery information might be useful. Other people on this forum have said it's helpful.
Wishing you all the best.
Ruth.

Husband here working towards the TSM cure. My wife doesn't drink much and is supportive so I can't quite relate, but anyway, that's not cool.

Would you label him as an alcoholic also? That would explain a lot. His denial and not wanting to drink alone. Us alkys tend to do that.

Perhaps tell him you DON'T WANT TO QUIT. I JUST WANT TO DRINK LESS.

Perhaps fib just a bit and tell him you really want to have the pills only for occasions where one of you two needs to drink responsibly when driving may be involved. Then you can have your Nal, and secretly take it every drinking episode. Milk you 2 beers with him.

Perhaps let him read my 7 month documentary on here, how this DRUG has helped me cut my drinking immensely. Still working towards the cure, my numbers much higher than yours, but feeling better better about it every month.

This is one of the HUGE issues I'm dealing with.....he says HE can handle it (even though after being diagnosed with Crohn's disease he continued to drink....sounds like a problem to me!), and he has convinced our daughter I am the only one with a problem (and if she's gone for the night, he takes me out to a bar).

After the blow up with my daughter yesterday, he now says, via phone, no more, I will leave..........

His controlling ways are what I believe have pushed me to this point, I needed an escape and found one........when he's on the road, the urge is much less.......I guess time will tell if he's going to quit or if he's going to do like he's done other times he's given me the red light and hide his rum in the garage!

I tried to get him to look at the book, that didn't work, I like your idea, maybe I can sit him down in front of the computer with your diary and show him......thanks I'll try that........This really has me running through all of my emotions, his control, my lack of control, my guilt.......and all the while he's treating me in a patronizing way "I'm going to help you....you need help...." Yea, you want to help me in your way, can't look at any other ways because no one else can be right but him! Oh sorry to get off on a vent........thanks so much for the advice!

Wow, this is sad and a tough situation. I support everyone's suggestions.

I'm sorry, but he sounds like a controlling, codependent asshole. You deserve the opportunity to take care of yourself the way you see fit. And if he won't even look into this method, then maybe you should question whether the relationship is worth more than your health and quality of life.

I recently found out from my exBF that he had been holding off on marriage or living together because he was "testing" (his words) me to see if I would relapse again, which I did after 14 months sober, in part because I was so disillusioned that he wouldn't commit! What a corrupt cycle all around. And so when I started drinking this past June, he abandoned me. Completely. That's not love. That's not unconditional.

Now that I'm getting better, and have cut my drinking in half since starting TSM, he's sniffing around again. To his credit, about the only thing to his credit, he has looked into TSM and is supportive of it for me. But it's too late for us. This time it's me who's not "signing up for that (lack of commitment bullshit) again."

Don't compromise when this could be the thing that saves your life. You were doing amazingly well on TSM.

I wish you all the best.
Sheryl

What the hell!

Sorry but what your husband or daughter think about Nal don't mean crap.

Get back on the program, don't tell them anything and get yourself better.

If I say anymore I'll explode.

Rich