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dothework · **Posted:** Mon Jul 15, 2013 12:30 pm

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Ruthy · **Posted:** Tue Jul 16, 2013 7:58 am

Babs,

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I've been on this road for many many years, and I go back and forth - should I quit? After all I don't drink all that much. But I gotta have it every night. Oh, so what, it's only a few glasses - give yourself a break - you're not as bad as some! Yeah, but I just hate it!! Well, just stop then!

But I can't!!!! Well, stop complaining about it and just drink. But I hate the feeling, and I hate the flushed face and the tipsy-ness. I hate waking up at midnight when even those few glasses wear off and I feel sweaty. Oh, just shut up and quit or don't quit and drink, I'm so sick of listening to you bitch about this...

You're not alone with this type of thinking...this is almost exactly the same as what goes around in my head on a regular basis. It's a constant dialogue of must stop/ can't stop,won't drink today/I'll start again tomorrow, this is so bad/one won't hurt etc. etc.

I have to say that I've been able to change that a bit in the last 2 weeks since starting my Nal. It's taken the pressure off and I'm not beating myself up or driving myself mad with the constant negative self talk. I take my Nal, wait an hour and then have a drink confident that each drink is taking me closer to being able to gain control.

As time goes on and TSM starts to work it's magic you may decide to change the routine, but for now relax into it. Take the Nal, wait the hour, have the wine, enjoy the routine and see how you feel a few weeks from now. The book says to drink as you normally would.

All the best,

Ruth.

dothework · **Posted:** Tue Jul 16, 2013 8:27 am

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dothework · **Posted:** Wed Jul 17, 2013 7:27 am

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dothework · **Posted:** Wed Jul 17, 2013 6:30 pm

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christopher.hulsey · **Posted:** Thu Jul 18, 2013 6:18 am

I'm luck. My wife is basically the cookie cutter for "social drinking". Typically weekends only, and quitting before drunk. So you think it would be easy for me to not booze on weeknights. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

My biggest flaw happens when I am not home with her and grab one for the ride home, and get things started before I get home. It's weird, but as long as we don't have a social event on Saturday, which is rare, it seems to be easier to not have any, since I never really leave her or home that day. However, it is the mighty temptation I get after work that is one of my biggest battles I am working on.

dothework · **Posted:** Fri Jul 19, 2013 5:47 am

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dothework · **Posted:** Sat Jul 20, 2013 7:24 am

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dothework · **Posted:** Sat Jul 20, 2013 7:55 am

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bigkimo · **Joined:** Tue Feb 26, 2013 4:09 pm **Posts:** 29

DTW,
Wow, I think you have become quite the ENGINEER! I also have the "asking permission" hang up, but I have found out it is more me than the Hubby needing for me to ask. I had an abusive first marriage and I think the "needing permission" stems from trying to always keep the peace in that relationship but never getting any peace. I carried that forward to second marriage and it is not really needed.

Hope all goes well with the Nal. I am on my 4th month and doing pretty good. Have been daily drinker for over 40 yrs. Still can't get the AF days in but now I can stop which I couldn't do before.

Drive that train!
LindaM

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