Dear friends 4abetterlife, StVincent, Iamdave,
Many, many thanks for your support. You kept me going till I found my solution trough Dr. Eskapa. Resuming, this terrible triangle where my wife was: Panic (relief trough alcohol - and her pretense to drink at the slightest disturbance) x Depression x TSM, as a resume, was solved at least momentarily on three pillars, and in this sequence: 1st - Depression, with Mirtazapine, and taking away all other powerfull dugs. - 2nd - Panic, with sublingual and quickacting Clonazepam ( this was also crucial because the panic was no longer to be fought with alcohol - garanteed a quick relief in around 15 minutes and eliminated excuses to satisfy craving. - 3rd - Naltrexone - TSM. I believe it works, slowly but assuredly. Ingrid's craving reduced substantially. And it added a very important drive: Belief and hope. There is a way out! The statistics from Dr Eskapa show 80% of success. And he informed that there is a blood test, still experimental but almost there, that can predict if someone will be responsive to Naltrexone. So we are in peace now - vigilants, but in peace. And Ingrid is back...
I write you trying to contribute to anyone's problem with alcohol. I write because I know alone it's impossible. I whish you all well, and am ready to help and share anytime. Yours, Gyorgy

Gyorgy,
I am so happy for you and your wife. It truly is a blessing to have a community to share these battles. THank goodness we have more than the AA/Alanon advice which says to simply abandon your spouse and let them hit a bottom, whcih could mean their peril!!!!

I wish you and your wife well and look forward to your posts. I am a trying to help my spouse while I battle my own alcoholic deamons.

Gyorgy,
Thank you so much for updating us on your wife. I really admire how you stood by her through the worst and did not give up until you found a solution. It takes so much courage and love to be able to do that. I very happy that the outcome is good for you.

Dears 4abetterlife and Tambo,
We'll be in touch because so we can help us all. As the beautiful "4abetterlife" name means. I was sick as well as Ingrid, and I don't illude myself: we are on the path but we're not yet there. I wonder if there is a complete cure... But I feel we've found a platform. And I pray that Sinclair and Eskapa are right. I believe them both factually - so well demostrated and exposed - and I must believe them in my heart. I need hope, and I don't mean now spiritual hope, but strong intellectual convincement. Yesterday Ingrid was a little bit over, and I was sad, but I know she realized it and today she'll keep the line. For a few months, in such an incident, next day there would be only hope as a desire, as a desperate wish. Now there is confidence! So I will persevere very strongly with TSM. And I believe in this corresponsible attitude from Ingrid, not merely taking the pills, but trying to organize her drinking world and being conscious that it is very sad for family and friends when she oversteps the line. She should draw it herself. We just help and support, with little stratagems like keeping the bar closed before a given hour, and pre-limiting the amount (without suffering or harshness - but with convincing).
4abetterlife worries me, because I understand by her lines that she is suffering in this daily battle. I mentioned our little tricks maybe to her use. Another advice from Dr. Eskapa was to take the pill closer to drinking time, no longer than 2-3 hours. (here I feel I must controll better-I am worried that Ingrid takes them too early, or maybe forgets it sometimes)
Another feeling I want to share, is that we, Ingrid and I, had to come to a honest and friendly understanding, that if there was no full sincerity and truth, nothing could be achieved. We had to truly open our hearts, and keep them so. I learned to disvest myself from prior attitudes and standpoints: Had it been me who was in trouble with my drinking and consequences, how would I like to be treated and understood by my wife?
I suppose a humane and caring psychologist can definetely help to build this bridge, when we ourselves are in trouble for the moment.
Yours, Gyorgy