add one more AF day to the week. 3rd AF day in 4 days. I'm not believing how easy this is. trying not to get too excited as anything could happen still. but damn I'm tickled pink

and i'm glad you said I help you chill. I must admit i'm pretty obsessive though. after all I log in to this damn thing like 10 times a day! y'all really give me hope. and i'm basically paying it forward for some folks who were on here a lot more when I first came. some cured and some not, like houtx, minneapolisnick, jim clark, bob3d, firebird, loop, wort,lena, I could go on and on.

Is your goal to stop completely? I'd be happy if I could be happy just having a beer every now and then. I like the taste of IPA's. My problem is I don't stop after one or two (or three or four). I'd love to be able to enjoy a beer and then not feel like I need another one. But Congratulations on 3 days!!!

before TSM, My original goal was to stop completely. I was always told that was the only way to deal with my problem. after my last AArelapse, i felt really lowdown and had no hope. I desperately searched online for a way to quit, not for a way to keep drinking, and eventually I found TSM.

so my original goal was to find a better way to quit, but knowing what I know now, I want be a normal person with regard to alcohol. I love red wine with a steak or a cold beer with wings. If I can have one or two on occasion and it's not going to send me into a drunken shitshow, sure, I'll enjoy one in good company now and again. If there weren't a way to do this, total abstinence would still be my goal.

thanks for asking me, you've challenged me into making an official goal. For now I'm going to say an ideal goal is no more than 15 units per week with no more than 5 on any one day. and not white knuckling. if I miss the mark by a few, fine by me. just not having to drink every single day is blowing my mind already

Joe

Like you I had goals.. but for me none of them happened exactly like I thought. It's very strange where naltexone and tsm has brought me. It's very weird because when I started I could NO WAY see myself as abstinent...I am still not but I can go weeks now without a drink..before unheard of.

Like you i spent my time in the "program" cult whatever you want to call it. So when I decided I wanted to do something about my drinking the cult's mindset was ingrained in me HARD..all or nothing when it came to abstinence. It took a while for me to be ok with the fact I still drank..BUT I was never out of control, I was not blacking out, I was not killing relationships, no late night drunk dials, no depression, no waking in strange parts of my house, no brusies and cuts I couldn't explain etc.

In the beginning I wanted my "old" life back so bad...prior to booze destroying it...now I have have it and then some...but it didn't happen the way i thought it would. I think I made some effort..but we all know how drunks are ..empty promise central eveen to ourselves. But tsm gave me the power to be true to myself and others around me.

Like you I LOVE a cold one and some wings..I didn't hesitate on TSM to know when the situation was gonna be there and popped my nal and had a cold one...but as time keeps going by that desire to have a beer and wings is so faint. Don't get me wrong the "desire" for whatever reason is still there on occasion and I have a drink..just one or two and away the desire goes..TSM gave me total control.

But MAN did the cult make hard to deal with TSM at first in my head...soo glad to not have gone back there

"out of control, blacking out, killing relationships, late night drunk dials, depression, waking in strange parts of my house, brusies and cuts I couldn't explain etc."



Man, does that ever ring a bell!

That's the way I always imagined it was for other people - have a drink or two, chat a bit and then go home. Sounds like you're there.

Along the lines of wings and beer...Headn out for crabs tonight..LOL just poped my nal..crabs and beer like peanutbutter and jelly...gonna try coke at first...but I really can't imagine it..we will see.

but it's nice to know if I do drink beer it will be no more than 3..ie no pitcher upon pitcher and well F**K the crabs you got any Crown in this joint???

My hats & crowns are off to you guys...beer/booze drinker guys seem to...oh never mind :-)) Glad this easy way has worked for some of you. Jealous. It has been such a hard road for some of us...

I'm at about exactly 4 months. I drank quite a bit tonight but not so much that I will wake up on the floor (like before). I know I'm doing a lot better. I wish things were happening faster but I have patience. I see no overnight miracle but every day is a little better. I'm 53 years old and I've been drinking hard for almost 40 years, so I don't expect an overnight miracle. I'm just thankful there is a light at the end of this very long tunnel.