Potato, could you please summarize your experience

bob3d · **Posted:** Sun Mar 28, 2010 5:12 am

Every time I'm in a position to "judge" someone and I do so, whether through action, opinion, or word, somehow eventually I wind up in that same state at some point later in life. So, I've learned to disregard that strong instinct to judge or stereotype others because eventually I might likely be there and things often look different on the other side. And if I have already been there, then I have no excuse.

Bob

PS Good to hear from you potato!

BGH · **Joined:** Thu Oct 01, 2009 3:42 pm **Posts:** 398

the only things we can "judge" are actions. Motives are always hidden from us. So when we see someone doing an "action" that is wrong/dangerous/sinful/silly we CAN judge the merits of the ACTION - but reading hearts? No, Someone else does that...

Potato there are lots of fish...etc....etc....

potato · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:02 pm **Posts:** 345

So true Bob3d and BGH, I know that where i have been is scary enough that I don't judge. Note that I normally don't but I will say that the broken heart relationship thing clouded my vision for a little while but now I am back and clearer than ever. He was an angry arrogant person and I did not see this til later. Was lost in him. I am now back to better self and happy about it. Have thrown off the shackles of that time. The only thing left is I have been an awesome judge of character my whole life. I do not understand how I got so played. But hey we live we learn. Best to all.

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houtx · **Joined:** Wed Apr 15, 2009 8:39 pm **Posts:** 872

You're the best - what is meant to be will be. This relationship stuff sucks - but men love us as much as we love them. I truly think it will work out. The moon & the stars will align...LOVE will happen in our lives. Have hope - up until the very last minute

AsRealityTurns · **Posted:** Mon Apr 05, 2010 5:31 pm

potato wrote:

So true Bob3d and BGH, I know that where i have been is scary enough that I don't judge. Note that I normally don't but I will say that the broken heart relationship thing clouded my vision for a little while but now I am back and clearer than ever. He was an angry arrogant person and I did not see this til later. Was lost in him. I am now back to better self and happy about it. Have thrown off the shackles of that time. The only thing left is I have been an awesome judge of character my whole life. I do not understand how I got so played. But hey we live we learn. Best to all.

!

potato, from having associated with you for a long time, I only hope that I can find some real happiness again in my life, it's just the "right now" that is so overwhelming. You are an inspiration.

potato · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:02 pm **Posts:** 345

Just returned from two and a half weeks in Brazil and Paraguay. What an experience that was! Very good and I learned what it is like to be stared at constantly because of my color. This was a good thing to know. I am very h
appy to be back on home soil!! Hope your all well.

potato · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:02 pm **Posts:** 345

been a while sorry. What can I say except, can you see what a cure this is by the fact that I have not been here in so long? You should. If you don't then read through. Nal rules.

bob3d · **Posted:** Sun Jun 20, 2010 2:09 pm

potato wrote:

been a while sorry. What can I say except, can you see what a cure this is by the fact that I have not been here in so long? You should. If you don't then read through. Nal rules.

Great to hear you are still doing good! I know how hard it is to stay engaged in conversations here, but fortunately our experiences are here online for the world to see.

Bob

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