The only words of comfort Lo0p and ART I can give is to look beyond this time and envision good times down the road and someday you'll look back at this time and it will only be a memory. No one knows what tomorrow will bring but in our human minds we usually think the worst when in reality it never turns out as badly as we think it will be.

Wanting the best for the two of you
corkit

I'm soooooooo sorry it's such a sad time for you both. XXXOOO

True words houtx. I wish I could tell it from my husband's point of view. He was drowning in sorrow from the end of his other marriage. Two years of nothing but working and coming home to drink his way into oblivion. Continuing to love and hang on to someone who did not want to be part of his life any more.

He had dated a couple times after his marriage but no sparks. Same with me.

I didn't know all this about him. All I knew was that I bumped into a guy at the grocery store. A guy I had known since 2nd grade but hadn't seen in a long, long time. We weren't interested in each other back when we were young, but man, in that moment I was love struck. Couldn't get him off my mind. Never saw him out anywhere after that. Finally called his parents, left my number, and took him out to eat when he called. From that moment on, both our lives lit up like the sun coming out after two years of nothing but dark, dark clouds.

You never know what good things are coming around the corner. It sucks now and you think there's no one else in this world that you will ever want. That's what my husband thought too. Back then.

I'd like to add that the less contact I have with my ex, the better off I am. out of site, out of mind. I mean things remind me of her and make me sad, but to hell with her honestly. and getting out of the house helps. I have made some woman friends too, and that helps me see things from a woman's perspective and realize I shouldn't put one person on a pedestal. there are other fishes and when I find the right one I can use what I've learned to treat her right. plus I'll be more aware if she's messed up in the head if I'm not drunk the whole time. I look forward to getting into something healthy someday.
meanwhile there are plenty of fishes, just gotta figure out how the dating thing works these days and at my age.

You're right ART where is Lo0p?

tbloom you're so right even us ALkies can't imagine what the world outside of AL is and if anyone beats us up because of our drinking we probably do even worse to ourselves, so he couldn't be more blessed than to have you and it sounds like you're the fortunate one as well. Hold tight a time is coming that you'll have him back 100% and he'll be more in love with you than when the two of you got together again.

All the best to the two of you
corkit

I'm here. I'm a little too worked up to type right now. I'll be back later.

Thx for the encouragement, tbloom! Hope something like that happens to me. I am ready - feel like I'm burning daylight. Hate it when thoughts of that long-ago love pop up. Just HATE it. In the meantime, I am trying to better myself and practice my golf game! :-)

LoOP - take care. We are all here for you.

XO