I'm so sorry about this ART and houtx is so right you need to be proactive. Relationships can become a disease just like AL can be. Sometimes shock treatment is the best medicine. What you're going through sounds a lot like my relationship with my husband and it wasn't until I stood up said I've had it that he finally took notice, but when I said it I totally meant it it wasn't just a threat and that's when he knew this was going to be the finish. When you come to the point where you feel you're ok without him and that you'll make it alone is when you can decide whether he's worth another chance or not. Houtx is right you need to step away for awhile so you can see better. I so want things better for you ART. There's hope.

Take care my friend
corkit