Taking matters into your own hands would not help your niece and would ruin your life. Congratulations on your control. I had something happen to me yesterday that does not compare to your situation but which ticked me off none-the-less and would have sent me scurrying for a drink a few months ago. Not anymore. It is very liberating.

I'm so sorry crown86 about what is going on with your sister and niece but I am so glad on how you handled all of this and I know you'll be a wonderful help to your sister who must really need you now.


corkit

Nick and Corkit

thanks for the comments

Funny when your not crazy drunk all the time you don't react to difficult situations in life in a crazy bizzare fashion. It's been soo long I almost forgot how to be rational

Good to hear it, Crown. I think you're a great example of why, although it may be helpful for some, therapy is not a necessary component of treatment. It's one of the most counter-intuitive aspects of TSM. But in part based on my own experience and in part watching others evolve in the process, it's amazing to me how lives start falling back in place as alcohol consumption abates. It's truly a gift that we share.

I'm soooo sorry your little niece has been victimized. It's a tribute to your sister that the little one felt safe in disclosing what happened. It's also a miracle you were able to keep your wits about you. From what I've read, victims can be re-traumatized by loved ones being aggressive as a reaction to learning what happened. So, not just you but also your little niece -- and your sister -- were spared by your being level-headed about it. They need your strength and stability; sounds like you're ready to provide that.

Lena

Thanks for your post and you brought up a really good point - how our lives fall back into place without crazy levels of alcohol. Prior to my alcoholic drinking I could pretty much handle anything and roll with the punches and always land on my feet. Nothing was an endall. I had quite a bit of success in life mentally spiritually and financially prior to going over the edge. Your point is well taken - with the booze gone or normal quanties my mind reverts back to being able to cope and be rational in shitty situations - this is one of , if the not the most single thing I am greatful for, since starting TSM. I wanted my mind back.

Funny, when I first heard this news I knew if I went off ranting and raving it would have SCARED THE HELL out of my neice. I took a long walk with my dog instead. If I was drinking there would have been ZERO control.

I am watching my nephew today while my sister is at the police station having my neice meet with foresic police and police child phycologists. She has been there since 1pm and havent heard from her yet. I hope and pray they lock his ass up tonight.

The next thing that I cant beleive is and VERY MUCH ties into what your saying is I have made the decision to stay AF during this. The way I used to think pre-alcoholic. Booze makes a bad situation worse. hell 2 months ago it would have been a gimme to get drunk over this.

I am sticking to good old coca-cola...it never has thrown me into a blind irrational rage.

Wow, Crown - not only congratulations on your amazing success, but being the man you need to be for your family. Thank you to TSM on your behalf, I am almost speechless at these stories & so very happy for you!! Hope all turns out well - keep us informed. We care.

XO

I'm also finding that TSM restores me the long-lost ability to put the brakes on and not wake up the next day with vague recollections of acting like an asshole. That's a big victory, I'll take it.

Crown86: [fistbump]

-Ned

Hi Crown,

I'm so very impressed that you were able to handle such a painful situation with the control and solid dedication you've shown. Holding back from acting upon the rage must have been extrememly difficult, but it's exactly what your sister and niece need right now. My heart goes out to you, and I am so happy to know that you'll be there with the clear head, and calm strength your family needs to weather this storm. Hugs and love to all of you.

Crown, I don't post much lately, but when I read this I just had to say something. You are an inspiration. Your control in this situation is to be commended. I have a friend who was physically abused as a child by her father. She finally spoke up and he was sent to prison for 10 years, that was back in the 50's. I think the consequences might be more severe today. I wanted you to know, although she had issues growing up, she is a fine strong woman today in spite of what happend to her as a child. I hope this eases your mind.