Ok, so I'm 26 weeks now. Some changes -- less cravings, sometimes "forgetting" to drink until I see the time ("oh! time for a drink!") but really no less consumption. Don't get very buzzed and the hangovers are not fun when I do overindulge.

That said, I'm still not drinking much less.

Last nite, hubby and I went to a totally lame ac/dc concert. Never liked this group in its heyday, and they were even more pathetic now. Except for my ears that are still ringing. Anyway, we went to dinner first, stopped by a sports bar, then went to the concert. I drank frickin' everything -- wine, beer, a couple of bloody marys -- and didn't even get a buzz!!! (which I wanted, after hearing the band for a long 20 minutes!) My husband had 2 beers the entire night and he probably had more of a buzz than I did.

So today he tells me that he doesn't see TSM working, blah blah the usual. I concurred with him and asked him to give me till the beginning of 2010. But seriously, what is my next move if I'm not "cured" by then? Where can I go, what can I do???? I shudder to think of the alternatives, like AA (which he'll probably want me to do.) I'm at a loss and I'm scared.

hoping, I do not know but I was right there with you (since FEB 09) and I have had a major switch. But I did change meds, and I did get a scare, so maybe those two things assisted in the change. Or maybe this TSM might be getting a hold of me, let's hope that's the case. I was really getting frustrated, so now I am perplexed, but maybe, just maybe it is the NAL.....

Hi h4b,

There are alternatives and some members of this community (including myself) are beginning to do a bit of digging. I'm into Week 33 and this very fact is forcing me to take a close look at my options. It's too early to draw any conclusions yet - but my resolve (latest TSM word) has never been higher!

Stay strong!

V.

hoping4better - I wish you well and wish you patience. This is obviously an 'easier softer way' and there is no set time limit.

Virgil - curious, what alternatives are you & others digging into?

Hi XaJere,

Please take a look at recent posts on Virgil's Progress.

All the best.

V.

Hey Hoping,

Looks like we're in the same boat. My wife is giving me the time table.

I think if you can show him the following:

1)Lack of drunkenness
2)Clarity of thinking on a regular basis
3) proactive changes in your life i.e. working out, going back to school,...whatever you feel has been short changed or compromised in your life

Basically, taking back your life without asking permission (his), hence showing by actions.

If that ain't good enough for example, my situation, then so be it, her loss.

Sorry you don't like AC/DC. I do and I'm a jazzer. but my question to you, if you don't like that music, why didn't you pass? I know a lot of folk that hate jazz and I see them trying to understand it or fake like it...why? Life's too short, don't do that to yourself. My heart goes out to you as I know your situation all too well.

Take care, Jim

h4b I'm sorry your SO is doubting tsm for you. Has he ever been on this board and read some of the threads? I wish he understood there isn't a time table for the cure. I think some of us who are married get beat up twice, once by ourselves and then by our SO! Hang in there the cure could be just around the corner, look how it creeped up on some of the cured folks here on this board.

keeping you in my prayers
Corkit

h4b I too am sorry your husband does not see your subtle improvements. In my case I tell my husband (poor soul) every little tiny improvement I feel, every time!!! He's a saint that he hasn't throttled me before now! But it's important for him to hear my improvements however small so he can understand. Besides that, it's important that he thoroughly understand TSM - who knows that he won't pass this on to his buddies who are having problems with al...

be kind to your husband - tell him!!