Minnemom,

Kudos to you for making that glass last 3 hours! And maybe the tables will turn and you will start babysitting your husband .

Jaba

Minnemom: I haven't been posting or reading here a lot, so I just now saw your last posts. You are doing SO WELL!! For so long you worried nothing was happening but it seems that now something is. It was the same way with me. Keep up the good work!! xoxo Newlife

I so happy for you that you are doing better. I thought I was seeing a difference in November, during this holiday I am drinking more and wish I could just stop.
As for the hubby, I know that is so hard. My husband doesn't drink and watches me. I curl up in my bedroom and drink starting at 7.
I have been to counseling regarding my drinking, they all say just quit. I have quit many of them because they make me angry and they don't appear to get it. I get more support here. I have also been through hyponoisis, and have tried meditation. The only thing that has worked is the topamax.
Keep us informed how it is all going.

Hey minne, and suzie, I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with your partners. My first thoughts are that there could be some jealousy there. I know I often felt jealous of people who could just drink normally. It sounds over all like you are doing great though and I'm very happy to hear it. The way I look at it is that alcoholism is a personal journey and it's a selfish one too. Just think of all the times that we chose to just stay home and drink rather then do something with friends, family, partners and so on. And in a twist of irony, recovery with TSM (or any method) is also a personal journey and a selfish one too. Go back to the old saying that you have to take care of number one and in the case of recovery, sadly, it's at all cost. Because what I believe is that the journey to recovery is paramount and that the end justifies the mean. It may mean that there is a lot of hurt and loss on the way but once you get there it's like coming out of a dark cave and the real healing begins. My hope is that for anyone who is having a hard time with a partners 'support' or lack there of will crawl out of that cave and then their partners will even see how much better it is for everyone. Because when you are glowing it's hard not to see it.

Well said, Ocean. It is probably very easy for significant others to be confused and wary. They are taught by popular "knowledge" that we WILL relapse and they may have seen it in us before. And they may have bought into the idea that only total abstinence works. So it is very easy not to trust us. As Ocean says, if we shine bright enough and long enough, we will wear them down. First we prove it to ourselves.
Happy New Year
Steve.

stay the course. I was able to watch 9 hours of football last night while drinking 3 beers. it works. Nal on!

Glad to hear you're making progress MinneMom.

Spouses are definitely a difficult part of the process for some of us, where sometimes their idea of "support" doesn't exactly fit with what's really needed. All you can hope for is that the results will eventually speak for themselves, and that love will conquer all.

Hang in there with the counselling!

Wondering how the newbie is doing. I am still waiting for the switch to happen.

Oh Meggie - it WILL happen - you know that you really are fairly early days - just trust, have faith and patience and it will work for you eventually - I thought it was NEVER gong to happen for me! How far in are you now? What dose are you taking and how long have you been on 50 ? (if you are taking 50). I know I keep asking you but forget so need it written down somewhere that I remember - you do not have any sort of signature telling us..... just MY opinion - and this is just mine - But I feel that once you get to the 5o, then you are sort of starting then - Joe was saying that Joanna says that she doesn't understand why folk take the lower dose - all the studies were done with 50mg. I know that others here will disagree with me re taking the 50 - and it is great that lower doses have worked for others - BUT, you need to try the way it was intended really if it is not working for you.

Hugs to you Meggie, Maggie x

I took 75 last night and I am chewing them, icky. wondering if I should crush and sniff them. Oh, well, we will see. it was 7 months the 7th of Feb.