ok, I'm drowning here. Do you get thoughts of just running away and then you think WHERE? I have two monkeys on my back one AL and the other my husband. I go to work, run my department and all the time thinking do they know I'm not like them, actually going to work and looking forward to being around people who seem normal! my SO has just checked out (sits in front of the tv, hasn't worked for over a year) and left me to handle all kinds of headaches that he doesn't want to think about, so I'm running like an idiot every which way to put out fires that he has left to me to handle. He won't take the Nal the way he should (24/7 drinker) and gets pissed off at me when I tell him how to take it and I'm ready to go POSTAL! I envy all of you who are single at least you're in control of yourself and what you do but how do you handle trying to keep moving forward yourself when someone else is dragging you down with them? If anyone is wants to know what my trigger is it's my HUSBAND! Wow that felt good


PRE/TSM = 50+
Week, Units, CR
WK-1, 31, 10
WK-2, 36, 10
WK-3, 37, 10
Wk-4, 45, 10

You woke up this morning. The sun rose in the East. You have your brain working (somewhat ) You are progressing on TSM. You have family and friends (even if they are not supportive), you have a job, you have a place to live....

You know how all that is on the good side of your life - but the bad side sure seems to overwhelm everything doesn't it?

My hubby is one of my triggers too so I understand what you're saying. Please keep on keeping on. There is nothing you can do when you get into one of these moods. They hit all of us. Please take a deep breath.

There is nothing you can do to control your husband. That's a very cold, very hard fact. YOU are the only one you can control...I'm sorry for all the terrible cliches here - but they are cliches because they are true If you pray, pray for the grace just to hang on. I'll pray for you today. Do you have a therapist? I'll be thinking of you all day as I try to stop myself from letting my husband control my every waking thought. I'm going to find a therapist on Monday because I have the same difficulties you seem to have - but my husband is loving and supportive - he just makes me crazy!!

Thanks BGH. Yes, I do need grace and I pray all the time that this would be over. I guess my biggest trigger is not him in general but the fear that my SO is not going to make it and I'll lose him. Oh how I hate AL!! We're supposed to go out with two other couples tonight but he won't be going because he's sick, too much AL during the week so that by the weekend he's sick, can't eat etc. so I'm left to make up something why he's not there. Oh well, life goes on.

yes it sure does. Please try this: LOVE WHAT IS

sounds hokey and it is, but when I try to use that perspective things get a little easier. I pray too but I pray for the grace to simply love what is. My belief, as a Catholic, is that we have a Loving Father in heaven who created us, and wants us to be peaceful here, and then blissful there. We must, IMO, learn the difference between "peace" and "happiness." We can be peaceful if we simply accept what is, and change the way we look at everything we can't change.

This is horribly cliche again, but I think about this a lot. If I didn't have the husband I do have would I be different? No. I'd be doing the same stuff, I'd just be alone. There are lots of different triggers, so I guess I'll try to be peaceful with the ones I have.