Hi all

I just wondered what everyones ultimate goal is with the Sincalir Method? Abstience or social/moderate drinking; or cross that bridge when you find it? I don't suppose it really matters except the latter options natrually require maintenance.

I suppose my own personal goal is to be able to drink socially and not worry about it. Long way off though.

ashl

Either is a reasonable goal but often (something like 30% of the time), those who intended to drink socially end up abstinent. I think focusing on one or the other too early is pointless and in addition, raises doubts in the minds of naysayers who will call this an excuse for drunks to drink.

I was looking for a way to moderate when I found the Sinclair Method, but now I plan to defer that decision and as SR put it, just go where this journey takes me. My only goal for now is to get my drinking under control, for all the reasons N101CS mentioned

Ditto what RV and Lena have said.

Personally, I don't really care if I am abstinent in 6 months time or drinking moderately- as long as I have this 'monkey of my back', I don't care either way.

Thanks for your comments all. I suppose the most important thing to me right now is the hope of regaining the ability to choose. Re-empowerment. Not as much of a goal as an eventual destination by all accounts.

I guess one of my goals would be to be at the point where if I was in a situation when I felt like having a drink it would mean having a drink or two. Not thinking about how I could get or have more and ending up drunk. Just being satisfied with none or a little would be great. That includes the times when hard things are happening or if I am under stress.

I think I'm with all of you here. I was abstinent for many years, had many interests and friends, and didn't particularly miss drinking, except on rare occasions. I could live that way again, if I got rid of the cravings. On the other hand, I sincerely enjoy good wine, and the conviviality of sharing a drink or two with friends. I'd be happy to get to that point.

What I want most is to NEVER GET REALLY DRUNK AGAIN. I want to have control over when/if/how much I drink. I want to feel normal, and productive, every single day. I look at old journals I kept that recorded what my goals were for each day (as a self-employed, work-from-home mom, I needed the discipline of those journals). I noted when each goal was reached, and what the outcome was. I cannot believe how motivated and productive I was during those years - and that was when all four children were still living at home, involved in sports, 4-H, etc. These days it seems I just don't have the energy to do more than the bare minimum. . .and that's not as high quality work as I did b/4 becoming re-addicted to alcohol. (I drank heavily in my very early twenties, then quit for 20 years when the kids came along.)

In short, I want ME back again!

My primary goal is to simple get to a point where alcohol is not controlling my life any longer.

In practicality, I'm going to let The Sinclair Method take me where it takes me. If I get to a point that I drink moderately or on occasion, so be it. However, if I get to the end of this and decide to abstain, that is fine with me as well.