Hey all,
Newlife, if you would have asked 3 weeks ago to do an af day, I would have lied and told you I did. I just couldn't do it, mentally or physically. So I understand what you are saying. This past weekend was when I realized that I had taken my pill at 8:30 pm and it was 10:30 and I hadn't even thought about drinking. And when I poured that glass of wine I was thinking to myself that this is just plain stupid! I need to man up and do an af day to see how I feel. However, if you guys would not have done this in a group, I would have continued to drink my 1-8 oz glass or 2-5 oz glasses of wine every night. I don't think I would have challenged myself. Since we are not under doctors care (at least I'm not), I think it is great that we challenge each other. How else will we know when we have made progress.
Newlife, I believe that you have made great progress, and I am glad you did white knuckle it; however, you shouldn't have to.
I think things changed for me when I put a limit on how much I was drinking and pushing my pill back later and later. I only put a limit on myself because any more than 3 glasses of wine I would have a nal. over. It wasn't as bad as when I would drink 1 1/2 bottles, but it was there and my body and head did not want to go through that again. I started to really measure (not play the eye game where it's kinda close) out 5 oz. and limited myself to 2 glasses. Sure that stupid booze brain of mine would scream...I WANT MORE! FEED ME NOW! but I thought hecky no. Instead of feeding my booze brain, I would go to bed. I have also noticed if I stop drinking before that slight buzzed feeling it is easier for me to say no.
Deena,
Red wine isn't something I cared for, but we are getting these expensive bottles for "congrats", and I have to say I am liking it (I wouldn't pay more than $10 dollars for a bottle and a box is fine...I am a cheap drunk). I am like you about finishing the bottle, and after tonight (last day of my a.f.) I will probably have to measure out my 2 glasses and dump the rest. I cannot trust myself yet. I would hate to have any spirits in the house because of the fact (unless they were here to haunt me). I think I started drooling when I read what you drink and how
. I am not trustworthy at all!
Steven,
What can I say, but you and Deena have made me think I need to find a Vietnamese restaurant near me. I love love my veggies! And I am glad we have each other to lean on and encourage. Its funny, my husband and I get frustrated with people and we both say "I hate people!" So I can understand where you are coming from. But I have to agree that these people in this forum are the best kind of people I don't mind liking. I do hope you get better.
Maggie,
please do fret over what I said, but realize that you have a lot of thinking to do. I think UKB has a point about trying new drinks once you feel confident in TSM. It is just a shame that guinness doesn't come in light
God how I love you all and you have made my week and this experience with TSM so special
Jaba
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