houtx, I'm with you on the privacy thing. I sometimes get a little worried about that, too. No one knows about my problem and my involvement in TSM except my husband, mom, dad and sister -- and I want to keep it that way! I do think that for women, alcoholism carries a much bigger stigma. Especially if you're a mom. (Think of that horrible, saddening car accident that killed children and others, and mom was drunk but no one in her family even knew about her problem...) Anyway, want to keep my identity a secret, too. Except to this group.