I was too late........no hope

Cali · **Posted:** Tue Oct 27, 2009 11:28 am

Hi all,

I am probably writing and reading for the last time. I finally moved out to California, but am too late to help my love. Seems he hooked up with old GF.........24 hour a day drinker. We spent a week together talking about our future plans, I took a 10 minute walk and came back and he had called her and told me he was going to her. Does not want to stop drinking now. My heart is breaking as I know he will die from the curse of alcohol. It is hard for me now as I am staying with his sister as I look for work............won't go on, no need. I pray and wish all the best to all of you and will miss this forum. Keep up all the encouragement you give each other. We all know NAL is saving lives. My love will probably die.

Annette
(Cali)

bob3d · **Posted:** Tue Oct 27, 2009 6:14 pm

Sad.

Remember though, people change... often more than you can imagine. Likely it will happen, sooner or later. Let's hope that it is sooner.

Bob

houtx · **Joined:** Wed Apr 15, 2009 8:39 pm **Posts:** 872

Oh my god, Annette - I am soooo deeply saddened to hear about this! I know your heart is breaking and I am soooooo sympathetic. So much I could say, but please stay here with us as long as you want. Post on the single ladies forum as we have a lot in common. You do not need to be following TSM to find friends here...hang in there girl. You tried and did what you could. I'm so sorry.

AsRealityTurns · **Posted:** Tue Oct 27, 2009 8:27 pm

Annette I am with houtx, in my opinion.
It is totally ok and probably healthy for you to stay and hang with us on the ladies forum, it will give you a place to communicate as we all are trying to overcome our dilemma with alcohol. This is not exactly TSM but the thread Aw da single/married ladies & men will be a place for you to share your experience.

You most likely really need people who understand your situation right now, and I feel it is appropriate for you to continue to communicate with us, hope to hear soon how you are feeling.

hoping4better · **Joined:** Thu May 21, 2009 12:57 pm **Posts:** 133

Awww, crap....I am so sorry, Annette. I hope you are still reading the board b/c there are so many incredible people here who truly care. You can't save your guy, as you already know. Hopefully he will be able to do that on his own, in time. It is amazing how long people can abuse their body and still continue to live in "relative" good health, at least for the interim. Please kep in touch.

Cali · **Posted:** Wed Oct 28, 2009 12:10 am

Thank you all so very much. I will not give up hope for him. I knew his relapses were going to take him down fast, and they did. Drinking much more than I thought. Hopefully he will want to save himself and I will be there with NAL ready to go. No matter what happens between us, I will help him or anyone for that matter. I have been spreading the word on this wonderful discovery and forum. I have bought several copies of the book and given them to people wanting to read it. I feel a need to help all those I can......coming from a family of alcoholics. (co-dependant???) LOL

I am glad I checked back on the forum tonight..........gives me hope and cheers me up just reading your caring words. At 49 years old, I am just finding out what I want to do when I grow up.......help people with this addiction. A friend of the lady who I am staying with is here for a few days and she is incredible........wants to do the same thing. hmmmm.......career change? Maybe back to school I go! But I've got some healing of the heart to take care of first.

Again thanks to you all.........I will check in, I promise. Love to you all.

Annette

lena · **Joined:** Thu Feb 05, 2009 2:07 pm **Posts:** 929

Annette -- Yes, you need to take care of yourself first. I'm glad you recognize that. I travel a lot by air. One time the flight attendant changed up the safety spiel: "If you are traveling with a child or someone who acts like a child . . . " The rest of that is, of course, to be certain your own oxygen mask is in place before helping your loved ones with theirs. Literally and figuratively.

You are part of this community. We hope you stay around.

N101CS · **Posted:** Wed Oct 28, 2009 9:57 pm

lena wrote:

I travel a lot by air. One time the flight attendant changed up the safety spiel: "If you are traveling with a child or someone who acts like a child . . . "

Isn't Sothwest Airlines Great!? I love them...

AsRealityTurns · **Posted:** Wed Oct 28, 2009 10:01 pm

And speaking of AIrlines SOUTHWEST is having a major sale right NOW till tomorrow!

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