Been here before too. Had 2 toddlers, no degree, no support.. had to suck it up, stay in the marriage while I finished school, then left a few months after I had a 'real' job. I credit this time period as when AL became my best friend, the only way I could stand to be in the room with my husband (choking on that word). Had to go through a long period of poverty in order to dig out but it was so worth it.. also felt so alone... at least you have found this board which has some of the most supportive, practical, funny people that I've seen..

I hope you find a better solution - either working things out in the marriage or getting out without a huge financial hit.

Take care.

Hi hoping, Just wondering how you are doing. Haven't seen you post in a while.
Soulby

Hi Soul, haven't been on for a bit -- the drama continues. But thanks for thinking of me, it feels very good to hear from my online friend(s). I am still struggling, unsure of how to proceed, caught in limbo. In 100% one minute, out the next. I don't think he gets how much pain this has caused me, and I keep unearthing more lies. Anyone who has gone through this sort of thing knows what I'm talking about. Trying not to numb my pain but it's hard! Thanks for everyone who has expressed concern, it means a lot to me. I continue to read about everyone's progress, just haven't logged in lately to respond.

Hi Hoping -- Please give all the energy and thought you can manage to protecting your position and that of your children. Stay strong.

h4b - please feel free to get in touch whenever you feel a need. If I can offer any advice I'm happy to do so. I've been in your shoes (and my feet still hurt!)