Hi maggiemay, yes, sneaking drinks was very normal for me too. Boy, I can even remember tucking drinks away in the cupboard so I'd have something to drink in the morning when the bottle was empty when I went to bed - pretty pathetic - who was I fooling anyway

But drunks will do some pretty silly things, no? Even now when my quantity is down I still have that feeling that I'd better top up while my DH's back is turned. It's the strangest feeling when I know I don't "have" to do that.
If possible get yourself a Kindle, or a Nook. That's the only way I am able to read books in private. My husband would never say anything if he saw me reading a self-help book but I would feel terribly self conscious so I download them. I just feel better somehow having that bit of privacy. So give that a try. The least expensive Kindle is about $85 I think.
I think there is enough information here on the board without reading the TSM book but that means a lot of reading too - at least it would be private though. I found the book to be so interesting in a scientific way - and very affirming that finally science was all over this problem - we weren't all crazy, lazy, drunks - there really was something going on in our brains and there was help!! That makes reading the book very worthwhile.
Babs.