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I have done well the last few days. However, last night my husband and I had a large fight. He walked out and stayed away for 3 hours. You will be proud, I took the pill but didn't drink until he came home. We haven't talked.
We fought about money. He makes crazy, emotional choices. We have gone to the same dentist for 25 years. He decided he didn't like the hygienist and went somewhere else. It has cost us so much money, they don't put down codes that my insurance accepts and he doesn't remember if he had 3 fillings filled from over 2 weeks ago.
Maybe it is time to split, we haven't been happy, however, I am scared to be alone.

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You should be a counselor, yes, he stresses me out. I married my jerk of a father. I was sad when my father died but I also had a sense of relief. He did admit that he was sick and stressed. Many different reason.
Well, I drank little and slept ok considering. I am sure couples counseling with a bipolar person should be great. No, he would never. As my daughter says, Mom, you will always be the wrong one.
You know, it, the drink, doesn't taste that good. I miss that burn as it goes down the throat , that joy that comes with the buzz. Maybe this is working.

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Meggie - you and your husband 'lost' each other a long time ago - I remember you and I talking about you leaving him years ago! THEN, you were more concerned with looking after him - but I really feel that the time has come for you too to part company - just my thoughts mind !!!!

HUGS, Maggie x

Oh, Maggie I pray daily for peace and a direction. I measured last night and I had less then 2 shots last night. I have been going back and forth from gin and vodka. I am drinking gin now and it doesn't taste like anything. I am on the full pill and my body has wanted to go to bed at 830. So off to bed I go. I like mornings better anyway.
Maggie, a big accomplishment was not drinking when my husband had his hissy and walked out. Jabe, working out today with a friend. The weather is beautiful, almost 80
I have never viewed myself as a wimp, I have been the one that has taken care of the family financially, emotionally and physically. I am a strong teacher and am vocal in my union. I don't know why I stay.
I always hated watching people like myself doing what they do. It is so easy to say leave, or as my counselors say regarding drinking, just quit.

Meggie - it is SO not easy to leave - it is so scary to step outside your comfort zone - I admire those who do leave bad marriages - BUT you are so not happy - I hate seeing you like this - but I totally understand why you stay! The drink is an escape for you and I get that - which is why it sort of scares me that you will so miss having it as your escape ! The Nal is working - and I was so proud of you for not drinking when your husband had his hissy! Good for you. I know that he is ill - is there any chance of him getting better or what is the prognosis ? Please PM me if you would rather - or you have my e-mail too!

Good for you only having the two last night - that is an improvement - yes ?

Hugs, Maggie x

Meggie, I stayed for 20 years in a marriage that wasn't right for either one of us. There was no fighting; we didn't have enough passion to fight. I wish I would have left sooner. I think being married and lonely is so sad. Sending you lots of healing energy.

Dee

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