I am having a hard time explaining to my mom the TSM. She thinks I drink too much and too often and she is very angry. Until October I live alone but later I live with my parents until May when they move to cottage house. When I am alone I can drink but my mom is still angry and she told me that when they come back I can't drink so often. Does TSM work if I drink once a month or even more rarely? What would you do in my place? Do you have similar problems with your family?

I would drink less by employing TSM and try to educate her.

That's what I'm planning to do, I don't have any other choice. Did any of you have similar problem with your family?

Maybe show her your drink log. Perhaps she'll see how much less you drink and will see TSM in a better light.

How old are you?

For my mom even 3 beers is too much. Deuce, I'm 38 but still live with my parents unfortunately. And because in the past I was miserable, addicted and unemployed, having debts because parents borrowed me the money, my mom feels to have the right to decide for me in some cases I don't want to move out and pay for rent because that's a waste of money, yet I cannot afford to buy my own flat..

I hear you. If you want my advice, you need to establish boundaries with your parents. By that I mean you need to cultivate the ability to say no to them and feel entitled to say no to them. I understand that you are living under their roof but you are 38 years old and you are embarking on TSM to better yourself and better your life. Your mother clearly does not understand it. It would be better for you to be okay with her not being okay with it. It takes a little practice but it is a skill I encourage you to cultivate.

You will never be happy if you cannot establish healthy boundaries with other people. If you cannot say no to people you can never say yes authentically. Resentment will build. You will become angry and depressed. On the other hand once you start to say no to people when they tell you to do something you do not want to do you will instantly begin to feel better. This is the way out my friend and I know this from personal experience.

Deuce, you're right but my mom says that I will have to move out if I don't listen to her. I am not good with money management and first I would have to save some money to move out and feel safely. I am an English teacher and I have only private clients. The job isn't stable and in summer I don't have money almost.

I think what you need to cultivate is an internal attitudinal shift. Just go along with your mother but continue on with TSM. She doesn't need to know about it. But most of all know in your heart that you are doing the right thing for yourself and that you deserve it.

You're right, I should do what I have to do but my mom will know if I drink because we live together and she smells everything. I will try to talk to her once again, maybe she will change her mind. Or I will seriously think about moving out.