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I agree with them about the 40 minutes thing, I must confess I have had my moments of weakness when I drank before I should have, but I never got that "ah" feeling, so I think the nal was doing its job (and yes I was hoping for that feeling...yes very weak), but I would not make it a habit, for it
might slow down your progress.
I would guesstimate the best I could at that dinner, and try to time yourself (let each drink last for about an hour). Try the best you can to listen to your cues, for you may not want any more. If you want you could give yourself a limit (you are still very early in the game, so you do not have to do this), and tell your husband to remind you of what you want your limit to be. I think as long as you do not get a nal. over I would not be too concerned about limiting your intake; however, I do get intoxicated faster on the nal once I go past my magic number (3 glass of wine, too chicken to try anything harder).
I have never had a 14-20 course meal, you have me intrigued. Please post the menu when the night is over if you can (not saying I could cook that many courses I just want to drool over them

).
Please have a lot of fun,
Jaba