SerailBob,
Please go to the C-3 foundation and/or Options Saves lives Forum. JoAnna is a counselor and will help anyone through the process of TSM. JoAnna has helped 100s through this process and may be able to help you and your wife.
TSM is a process and it has ups and downs. Not everyone will have fast results like the book claims, but we all see results.
It sounds like your wife had a honeymoon period in the beginning which is a good sign.
She needs to realize that she has to be compliant, but if she is taking 100 mg it is doubtful that she is getting that endorphin rush from the alcohol when she didn't take her pill, but it needs not to happen again. She will not be starting over just because she drank before she takes her pill. It needs to be stressed that taking the pill 1 hour before she drinks is how the unlearning of the addiction works. The nal will block the receptors that the alcohol wants to hit for pleasure and with time your brain stops looking for the pleasure. Right now her brain is fighting with her and is looking for that pleasure it is no longer getting, so that may be why her intake has increased.
She will still be able to get drunk on the nal, but the feeling is different.
TSM is ideal for chronic alcoholics for they get to continue to drink without going through withdrawals. As they go through the process the brain will unlearn how to be an alcoholic as their intake continues to decrease.
Is your wife a willing participant or was this thrusted upon her? If she is willing and has accepted full responsibility for her recovery, she has got to "do" for herself. The first thing she has to do for herself is make sure she takes that pill and wait that hour; the second thing is she needs to count her intake and make a log. She needs to understand that there is no shame or guilt in this process. There is no judging or giving into a higher power, it is just the pill, waiting, and drinking. And when she drinks she has to count.
I think she is doing the best thing for herself, for TSM has saved my life (and I think everyone here feels the same). Maybe if she came here so we can support her through this it might help, for it can be scary doing it alone.
If she, or you, needs anything please let us know.
Jaba
The link to C-3, even though JoAnna is in Europe she counsels people all over the world.
http://cthreeeurope.com