John, I would recommend you read Dr. Eskapa's book. It will answer your questions, including the one you posted.
But to address your question (and break our rules concerning this area of the board), you will not, and absolutely should not expect to, see any decrease in your drinking at 3 weeks into this. No, I would not recommend an AF day if doing so makes you uncomfortable (but only drink in a safe place where you won't need to drive or do anything else that requires attention, like caring for kids). Just drink as always and let the process take its course. Don't expect to see much change until 3-4 months into it.
Bottom line: If you don't feel like drinking, don't drink. If you do, do it safely.
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