brittanylouis wrote:
Does anybody have any tips for keeping my mood in a good place?
Yours is a story I could have written myself, and you tell it well.
Your story is also endearing because of your reinforcement of the message to always take the pill. For life. It can never be said too much or too often. As a bonus, you have said it admirably. We all benefit.
I too became irritable and depressed while on the pill. It wasn't my line ( I forget whose) but I've appropriated it because it is so dead on:
Alcohol is your lover, and you are saying good bye because he is leaving you. It's a very depressing business.The pill is not the cause. Your entire life is built around alcohol (as was mine). You can't take away the alcohol and expect everything else to continue on as though he's still there. Sure, he still comes around occasionally. But he doesn't love you any more.
Truth be told: You'll not find happiness until you can learn to live happily without him.
That's hardest for introverts like us. My solution was to finally give up and except myself for what I am: an introvert. But I didn't come to that realization in my early 30's. Your road is a bit more difficult. I didn't have to give up a whole social life, but I
did need to create a whole new life filled with activities and pursuits that were fun and rewarding without alcohol. All the things I loved most in life I now pass by with indifference. It bemuses me, and I still suffer a feeling of loss at times. But it is fleeting.
The challenge is latent: When we start Nal we cannot even begin to picture a world without alcohol and/or all the activities we engage in that support our alcohol consumption. If we try to picture, -we see only loneliness, deprivation, -unhappiness. So we close our eyes and take the pill.
Eventually we get to the point where we can see with open eyes that that guy we loved so desperately isn't all he's cracked up to be. But now what?
An introvert by nature, I am not sure your future happiness lies in continuing to maintain all the social activities and friendships that you have for all these years. It seems you only did that because of alcohol. Alcohol allowed you to be someone you're not, -someone you wanted to be.
And here you are. Young, your life in front of you.
What now for Brittany?