kekede wrote:
UK, I think this "need" stems from thinking we have to be and look a certain way in order to be loved. Right now I am trying to convince myself that there are far more important things in life, but it's hard to let go of something that has been with me since my teens. Who knows where this mindset stems from, but it probably has something to do with how we were raised. I think my emotional maturity was stunted at age 11 (for reasons I don't care to go into just yet). As far as you are concerned, I and I assume many others appreciate all of your help and feedback on this forum. You seem to have your s#$t together from this vantage point and even if you don't, it's good to know you are helping others while at the same time helping yourself. This forum is awesome as a form of therapy for me and I really think it helps to post all of my insecurities. That being said, I would like to send a cyber hug out to you and everyone on this forum who are just trying to be better human beings. xxxxx's keek
Hmm, I looked at this a long time ago and I'm afraid for me it's not about looks - even when I know I look good have a need to 'fill a hole' be it healthy vegetables or junk food, to be doing something with hands and mouth, and have my stomach full to bursting even when not hungry. I've also had a problem with sugar free chewing gum and had to give that up because I was munching through packs of the stuff each day. I can also identify triggers, the same triggers as for drinking - stressful conversation, feeling annoyed or frustrated and the urge to go stuff my face comes over me.
Been reading some psychology stuff and some psychotherapists did identify a need in some people to 'fill a hole', which they'd do in a variety of ways in the meantime they would suffer from depression. I wouldn't say I'm depressed as such, and I have a lot of energy but I could very easily become depressed if I let myself.